(Written by: Rachel Pickel)
Instructions? Wait a minute-we weren’t handed instructions when we got married. Or – were we? We’re list makers, rule followers, doers and don’ters (trust me it’s a word, just ask my 3-year-old). Always seeking to update to the latest version of ourselves, our gadgets, our societal practices like recycling and trendy fitness routines. But (there’s always a but) when was the last time you followed the user manual and performed a system check on your most important relationship –your marriage?
Do you remember the last time you ‘updated’ your marriage? How often do you get a “system check” to make sure all systems are go? Today, it’s complicated. Between jobs, kids, housework, social lives, (I hear they still exist after diapers) and extra commitments on top of the regular upkeep of daily life. Then last but not least on that list there’s the ‘yada, yada, yada.’ It’s so easy to put the ‘yada, yada, yada’ at the end of the list and say you’ll get to it next date night, or when the kids are in bed….tomorrow….the next night….later this week. And by ‘yada yada yada’ I mean just that. (If you haven’t watched Seinfeld – you need to Netflix it…or at least YouTube the phrase to pick up what I’m dropping.) Giving each other some good old-fashioned lovin’. Yes, you read this right. Got your attention? I hope so! Let me tell you why – because that’s what the instructions say.
1 Cor. 7:3-4, “The husband should fulfill his marital duty to his wife, and likewise the wife to her husband. The wife’s body does not belong to her alone but also to her husband. In the same way, the husband’s body does not belong to him alone but also to his wife.”
We work tirelessly to try to follow most the instructions and update most aspects of our lives that it’s so easy to push this one very important marital aspect (responsibility) to the side. Why? Because, I (we) don’t have the energy. That’s why. But we are not following the instructions to obtain the best results. If you want to get fit, you exercise. If you want to save money, you spend less. If you tend to your garden, it grows. Nope, not rocket science, just God. Aren’t we about obtaining the best results? The Bible is the best instruction book for getting the best results. Nothing too technical here – just divine by design.
Genesis 2:24, “for this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife and they will become one flesh.”
Pretty simple. God designed it that way for a reason. There’s a reason he left his parents to marry YOU! He wouldn’t have made “doing it” so wonderful AND so uncomplicated between a husband and a wife for no reason. Sure, intimacy won’t solve the world’s problems, balance your checkbook or bake cookies for you kid’s class. But, (yes, there’s another but) things just seem to flow better when you and your husband are ‘one.’ Remember those little instructions?
1 Cor. 7:5, “Do not deprive each other except by mutual consent and for a time, so that you may devote yourselves to prayer. Then come together again…”
For best results, read instructions of maker and use as directed.
Pray. Love. Repeat.