(written by Kimberly Allen)
“Bondservants, obey in everything those who are your earthly masters, not by way of eye-service, as people-pleasers, but with sincerity of heart, fearing the Lord. Whatever you do, work heartily, as for the Lord and not for men, knowing that from the Lord you will receive the inheritance as your reward. You are serving the Lord Christ.” Colossians 3:22-24ESV
Is it weird to say that sometimes I feel like a slave to motherhood?
Don’t get me wrong, I love my kids, but we’re locked in this thing for 18+ years. And it’s the toughest job I know. It doesn’t have a boss or a wage, just our own conscience and whatever that broken-down brain of ours allows us to be motivated by.
What motivates you to be a great mom?
Is it the pressure of other moms around you?
Some “norm” portrayed by social media?
Your own high standards?
Mimicking or making up for your own childhood?
Or something else?
Raising a child can be thankless and monotonous, but somehow we have to find a deeper motivation for the hard work we do. We all know looking to those things listed above can’t last … It’s just too hard to keep up.
My moms group talked about Colossians 3:23 this week which says,
“Whatever you do, work heartily, as for the Lord and not for men … “
We talked about doing our “job” (whether you’re a working mom or a SAHM) as if we were doing it for God. Not our own glory, approval, or recognition, but for God alone. You see, when we really stop to think about it, God gave us our children to raise for a short time and as they get older we have to loosen our grip and eventually let them go.
Our job – biblically – is to raise our children to love the Lord with all their heart.
“You shall love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your might. And these words that I command you today shall be on your heart. You shall teach them diligently to your children, and shall talk of them when you sit in your house, and when you walk by the way, and when you lie down, and when you rise.” Deuteronomy 6:4-7 ESV
And God’s word says our kids have a part in this in Colossians 3:20,
“Children, obey your parents in everything, for this pleases the Lord.”
If we are supposed to be teaching our children to love God with all their hearts, it becomes obvious that we should lead by example. We can do this by raising them as if it were a specially designed job for us to do with all our heart for God.
It is not an impossible task.
God’s word is telling us to do our best to lead our children toward a love of God. We don’t get a grade. He doesn’t cut our pay if we don’t perform well.
It’s a command wrapped in grace.
And much freer than some of the pressures we put on ourselves.
I’m faaaar from mastering this. It’s a mindset I’m working to put on everyday so that I can take off the one of perfection (which always leads to disappointment and failure).
Here is how: Just be a mom, as if you were doing it for God.
Nurse that crying baby, have patience with the whiny toddler, do homework with your grade schooler, comfort your teen who feels left out … as unto God. Our job as Mom is about more than our own comfort. (Ouch…all the fingers pointed at me!)
There’s a reason He has each of us in the phases of parenthood He does and though they’re not all fun, we can do it to His glory and it can be deeply satisfying.